The last time I laid out our typical weekday it was July. Alice was 15 months old and I was miserably and, might I add, hugely pregnant. A lot has changed in these past five months. The biggest change being that Elaine is now here. We’ve grown from being a family of three to four, I’m no longer pregnant (thank goodness!), and both the girls continue to thrive and grow. So here goes:
A “Typical Weekday” in Our Family – Alice 19 months, Elaine 4 months, Matt & Melissa married for 3 years and 10 months (4 years this February!)
Note: This timeline is based on the days I work 8-5. It varies slightly when I have to work until 530 or 6 o’clock in the evening, but for the most part this is how a typical week day looks for us right now. Right now being the week of December 15th, 2014.
630 am // The sound of my alarm drags me out of what feels like the deepest of deep sleeps. “Noooooo…. I’m so tired!!!” these are my thoughts every morning. 630 am comes very quickly after being up at 5am (and 2am before that) to nurse Elaine. I hit snooze. More than once.
650 – 710ish am // I force myself to throw the covers back and drag myself out of bed. I’m going to be late if I don’t hurry. Everyone, except Penny our dog, is asleep. She wants to go outside. After letting her out, I carry the baby video monitor into the bathroom along with my phone. I check to make sure that both girls are still asleep. They are. Once again I tell myself that I should have gotten up earlier because I now have approximately 8 minutes to get ready. I head into the bathroom and quickly brush my teeth, wash my face, and apply some makeup. I still prefer to take my showers at night because 1) it helps me unwind and 2.) I hit snooze too many times to allow for a morning shower.
712 ish – 725 ish am // I am officially rushing around. I put on the coffee and whip up a very quick breakfast (these days it’s fast cooking oatmeal). I pack my car with Elaine’s bottle bag, my breast pump bag, my purse, and a bag of snacks. I have so many bags and think for the millionth time that I should consolidate. I shovel breakfast down and head to our bedroom to get dressed. I turn the hall light on because Matt is still asleep and dress in semi darkness, which is okay because I wear a uniform everyday and my outfits fortunately don’t require any planning or forethought.
730 am // Fully dressed, I head into Elaine’s room. She’s still asleep and I wish as I do every morning that I didn’t have to wake her. There’s just something not right about waking peacefully slumbering babes. I turn off her sound machine and gently rub on her belly. She awakens easily and after adjusting her gaze she always, always flashes me one of her huge gummy grins. She. Is. The. Sweetest. I scoop her up and kiss her soft and full cheeks. I like to give her a moment to adjust to being awake before I turn on the overhead light and get her dressed. We are out the door by 735/740ish and on the road to daycare.
730-745 am // Matt gets out of bed around this time and takes a shower. Sometimes Alice is awake and talks and plays quietly in her room. Sometimes she has to be woken up and other time she talks and plays loudly. As toddlers do. Matt dresses himself first before he goes into her room to get her dressed and ready for the day. He finds this is much easier than getting her out of bed before he’s dressed and ready. If you’re ever in a hurry, try adding a crazy toddler to the mix and you’ll quickly realize that you are now late.
Alice is at daycare by 830am so that she can eat breakfast with her class. She is in a class with 12 other one year olds. She has two main teachers and they are both fabulous, caring, and fun. We are so pleased that Alice really seems to enjoy daycare and her teachers. Her day consists of going outside for fresh air twice a day for a walk in the buggy, to play on the outdoor playground, or both. There is also a stellar indoor playground that the kids play on when the weather is bad. Other activities to fill the day include story time, music, learning and developmental activities, and art. Lunch is at 1130 and then it’s quiet/nap time from 12-330 followed by an afternoon snack. Matt picks her up shortly after 5 pm.
745ish to 750ish am // I drop Elaine off at daycare. She’s in a small in-home day care with 8 total babies ranging from 6 weeks to 15 months. The caregivers are a mother daughter team and Elaine seems to be doing really great there. We weren’t able to get her into the same in-home day care that Alice was in, but I’m so grateful to have been referred to this one and that they had an opening. Elaine’s day involves naps and milk My understanding is that she gets her bottles around 9,12, and 3. I know they have play time, story time, and they listen to music. A sweet bonus is that her daycare providers occasionally text me photos of my sweet girl and they send home little art projects using E’s hand and foot prints!
8 am // I make it to the office and settle in for my morning of work.
9 am // I pump for about 20ish minutes. I have lots of thoughts on being a working mom/breast feeding/and pumping but that would take forever. So maybe another time I’ll share those thoughts…
930-12 // Work
12 -1 // Lunch. I go home everyday at this point. We live very close by, less than 10 minutes to drive. Once I get home I eat whatever I can scrounge up in the kitchen and pump for the second time of the day. Sometimes Matt meets me at home and with salads from the deli down the street. It’s pretty much the only time we are by ourselves these days. By the time I eat, pump, and wash my pump parts it’s time to head back to work. The hour truly flies by.
1-5 pm // Work
3 pm // Pump for the 3rd time of the day.
5-530 pm // As soon as I’m able to, I rush out the door to pick Elaine up at daycare. I usually arrive at to get her by 515 or a few minutes before. I get a brief update on how her day went and then I pack her in the car and head home. Elaine is pretty much quiet the entire ride home, which is opposite of Alice at that age. We pull into the garage around 530 and Matt and Alice are usually always there. Alice has a snack and is intently watching her dad put dinner together. I kiss them both hello and change out of my work clothes. Matt and I dive into the whirlwind that is night time parenting duty for the next couple hours.
530-605ish pm // We usually try to eat dinner together as a family at the dinner table with Alice in her high chair and Elaine sitting in the bumbo on the dining room table. E isn’t eating food yet, but I think she still enjoys being included. Once dinner is over I try to spend time with Alice, read a couple books, or just play. E loves to play on her piano play mat or sit in her bouncy chair. Alice is very interested in her baby sister and wants to give her lots of hugs and pats. She’s still learning how to be gentle and that she’s 2-3 times her size!
610-640 isn pm // Elaine usually starts to get fussy which is an indicator that she is ready for bed. I get her in the bath and changed into her pi’s while Alice and Matt watch Elmo and/or read books. I nurse and rock her in her room. We try to keep things consistent so that she can get used to a routine. Bedtime with Elaine is hit or miss. Sometimes she falls right asleep, other times she cries and it take several attempts to get her down for the night. Granted she is only 4 months old and I think she’s growing through what they called the Four Month Sleep Regression. I didn’t know this existed, but apparently maybe it does.
645 – 715ish pm // Matt gets Alice into the bath and changed into her pi’s. I give her a hug and kiss goodnight before he puts her down. While she’s in the bath I wash Elaine’s bottles and try to clean up the kitchen in general. I also prepare her bottles for the next day and pack them in the bottle bag before placing them in the fridge so that they are ready to go in the morning.
730 pm // Alice is down for the night, but Elaine has woken back up. Matt takes over clean up duty in the kitchen so that I can try to get her back down.
8 pm // Both kids are asleep. For now. I jump into the shower, which is kind of my escape for the day. I try to relax under the hot water and white noise.
820 pm // I’m out of the shower and Matt is in Elaine’s room trying to get her back down again. She eventually falls asleep.
9-930 // Matt and I collapse in the living room, exhaustion hits us full force. Ha! We chat for a bit, watch TV, and/or zone out online. I try to get into bed by 945 pm and Matt is on baby monitor duty until he comes to bed.
11-1120 pm // Matt wakes me up. Elaine is awake and hungry. I nurse her and put her back down. She usually goes back down very easily late at night, thankfully!!! Matt usually comes to bed by 1130 or 12.
2 am // E is up again. I nurse her, rock her, and put her back down.
5 am // E wakes up and is hungry. More nursing, more rocking, and again she goes down easily. She was sleeping so much better a couple weeks ago. I really hope she goes back to waking up just once in the middle of the night like she was. But really I’m looking forward to when she starts sleeping the whole night through on a consistent basis.
630 am // My alarm goes off and we start a new day.
So it’s obvious that we are in a super busy season of life. Sometimes it’s wearisome, but overall it’s awesome. I love my family and am super grateful for each one of them. Do I long for more free time? Of course I do!
Sometimes, after the girls are in bed Matt will stay with the girls while I go out and watch a movie or grab a bite to eat with girlfriends and vice versa for him. Honestly, this happens so infrequently because it takes effort and, lets face it, we’re pretty low on steam these days. Weekends we spend a lot of quality time together at home and occasionally hang out with the girls’ grandparents. Once Elaine is sleeping through the night I think our schedule will change again. In the future I’d love a little more time to work out on a regular basis and have some crafty time.