One of the things I really miss about our pre-kiddo life was going on dates with my husband. Back in the day, we were dating fools! Meaning we went on dates All- The-Time and I have to say, it was awesome! I definitely didn’t appreciate the fact that we were able to grab spontaneous dinners on a random Tuesday night or just the sheer volume of dates we went on. I knew things would change once we became parents but you just don’t really know-know until you are right in the middle of the experience.
Our fourth wedding anniversary is coming up and we are now parents to TWO sweet baby girls and life is good. However, the frequency of our one-on-one dates has taken a severe nose dive. Such is life, right? Extra time is a precious luxury when you have a brand new baby, a toddler, and full time jobs on your hands. But! BUT! I still want to go on dates with my husband. I’m kind of sweet on him. Plus I believe happy and healthy marriages support happy and healthy families.
Investing in my marriage is a priority.
Recently I read about the Year of Dates on the blog Coffee + Crumbs and found myself nodding yes to so many things Ashlee was saying. She so eloquently says so many things I feel about marriage and dating and wanting her children to see them making their marriage a priority. Yes, yes, and a fist bump!
Like her, I too thrive on scheduled plans for dates and vacations much more than my husband. I love seeing plans penned into my calendar and it’s fun to have something fun to look forward to (and of course it’s fun to actually do the fun thing you’ve scheduled). My love language is also quality time (well that or words of affirmation, it’s a toss up) and I too am guilty for being annoyed with my husband for not taking the initiative to plan more regular dates. Ashlee has a lightbulb idea moment and realizes that she is more than capable of planning dates for her and her husband. So that is exactly what she does. She planned out 12 monthly dates, they went on them, and they made time between just the two of them a priority.
I was immediately on board so the other day at lunch I presented the Year of Dates idea to Matt. He immediately said he was in. Yay! February 12th is our four year wedding anniversary so it seemed like the perfect occasion to kick things off. We decided that we would take turns and plan six date nights each. Matt’s up first for February and I’ll plan something out for March. I’m excited and looking forward to our Year of Dates. Care to join in?!